My husband and I watched ABC’s Bachelor Pad finale tonight. I was pleasantly surprised by the outcome. In the past two seasons the winning pair split this money 50/50, but this season was different. One winner walked away drama free and $250,000 richer. How did he carry out this winning? Answer: He took the drama out of the game!
Recap of the final 4: It all came down to the final 4 contestants. Nick and Rachel became partners late in the game. Chris and Sarah were your typical new Bachelor Pad lovers. Throughout the course of the game Nick stayed low-key. He did not get involved in the normal drama, and emotion that ensues on the show. Rachel partnered with Mike and fell in LOVE. Mike was evicted from the show, and Rachel was left to stick it out with Nick. Chris partnered with a Blakely, then Jamie and lastly with Sarah and fell in love.
The drama of the drama free game: The eliminated players selected Nick and Rachel as the winning pair. Nick and Rachel then had to decide if they would SHARE the money, or KEEP the money for themselves. The trick of the game was Nick and Rachel had to cast their votes alone. Should one partner have chosen KEEP and one SHARE, the person that choose KEEP would keep the full $250,000. Nick choose KEEP and Rachel choose SHARE. Thus, Nick was the first full $250,000 winner on the Bachelor Pad series! Rachel, of course began to cry because she deserved the money. The eliminated cast members chimed in with their responses of “That is not fair” “How could Nick do this?” etc. While I understand the emotional ties other cast members had in the game, it is just a game, so I was surprised by the level of shock the other cast members demonstrated.
Nicks game: Nick explained his logic, and clearly stated he was playing a game. Nick explained that Rachel told him many times that she did not want to be his partner, and that she wanted to leave. Nick said he strategically stayed out of the drama and remained low-key throughout the course of the game. Nick also viewed the entire season prior to the finale show. In the viewing he saw and heard the negative comments other cast members made about him. Nick said several times “I played a DRAMA free game. It’s just a game.” Drama free is almost a foreign phrase to reality TV, because the heart and pulse of reality TV is DRAMA, but to be successful in a game it is important to remove the emotion. Since Nick remained drama free he maintained the ability to remove the emotional aspect of the game and stay clear, focus and committed to the end goal.
Real Life Impact: You might be thinking this is an HR blog “What does all this have to do with HR and the workplace?” In my experience drama and emotion impact our ability to think logically and make clear, sound business decisions. When drama enters the workplace our emotions control our responses. Emotional responses lead to drama. More often than not emotion filled responses are not well thought out, inappropriate, unprofessional and damaging.
Reality Check: There are certain circumstances in the workplace when emotion is right. For example, situations when we need to show compassion, caring, or passion for a topic. The reality is we are human, and we do feel. Feeling helps us build trusting relationships with other people. Trusting relationships create an environment where people can succeed. There is a right time and place for emotion to be shared in the workplace. We need to exercise our ability to identity the appropriate times to be emotional and use it to our advantage.
Lessons Learned, Questions Asked: “What can we learn from Nick and apply to the workplace?” “How did removing the drama and emotion from the game help him meet his goal to win?” “How can we (as employees) remove drama from the workplace?” “How would a drama free workplace help you, and your company?”
Learn more about creating a drama free workplace with Reality Based Leadership from Cy Wakeman.